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Submitted by: Nnoolliessjjusttllovee

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Only 6 days left to submit to the book project! June 1st is the deadline. More information can be found by clicking here. 

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Submitted by: Kelly

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Only 7 days left to submit to the book project! June 1st is the deadline. More information can be found by clicking here. 

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Submitted by: laugh-and-behappy

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Only 8 days left to submit to the book project! June 1st is the deadline. More information can be found by clicking here. 

Anonymous asked: why does your tumblr name say 100reasons to recover, yet in your posts it starts with number like 405. Because you matter

Well, I started this blog about a year ago. When I started, I didn’t think it would actually become as popular as it has or that we would ever get to 100 reasons. We swept past 100 reasons pretty quickly, but the name stuck. We have posted almost 500 reasons, but we did start at number 1, and all the reasons are available for your viewing pleasure by looking through the archive. You can also look through reasons by clicking here and viewing all of our posts tagged reason, though I’m not sure if that lets you go all the way back to number 1. 

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Only 9 days left to submit to the book project! June 1st is the deadline. More information can be found by clicking here. 

Anonymous asked: i cant stop cutting. its been almost 6 years

Even though it might seem like you can’t stop, you can stop. A part of you wants to. I don’t think you would have sent this message if that wasn’t the case. And so you can stop. It will be difficult to stop, but it is possible. 

I don’t know what you have tried. Different things work for different people. Some people can stop on their own, without any help from anyone. They figure out their own ways to cope. They write instead of cut. Or drawing a butterfly on their arm works for them. Rubber bands help wean them off. Or holding on to ice. You can find a more extensive list of alternatives to self-harming by clicking here and here. You can always call a suicide hotline and they can talk you through your crises [1.800.273.TALK or 1.800.SUICIDE]. Even if you aren’t suicidal, they will still talk to you and try to keep you from self-harming. 

If you have been keeping this a secret, I don’t recommend that. Don’t tell everyone, but tell people you trust. If you are still in school, tell your parents. Tell a trusted adult. Tell a trusted friend. The pain that you feel should not be something you have to struggle with alone. 

If you haven’t yet sought professional help, try seeing a therapist. Selfinjury.com [1.800.DONTCUT] and selfinjuryfoundation.org [1.800.344.HELP] can link you to local resources in your area. If you are in college, your college may have free counseling. Check out those services. Going it alone hasn’t worked. Trying something new can’t hurt.

Don’t lose hope. You can recover from this. It is possible. The journey will be up and down. You will have great days and you will have not so great days, but you can get through this. Recovery isn’t perfect, but it is still possible. When you fall, get back up. Keep fighting. You can do this. 

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Anonymous asked: Would you like us to just send the submission as the email itself? I hope this makes sense. I told myself when you started, I'd do the challenges, but school kept me busy. I hope to do them all in the next week or so.

You do include the submission in the body of the email. If you would like, you may attach it. That is probably the easiest thing to do when it comes to submitting pictures, though you may also attach word documents. 

Challenges are a way for us to collect submissions for the book project. You don’t have to do all of them. You are allowed to pick and choose. But make sure you get whichever ones you choose to do in by June 1st if you want them to be considered for publication!

More information about challenges can be found by clicking here.

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Anonymous asked: do you know of any recovery blogs that deal specifically with depression?

I do not know of any sites that deal specifically with depression, but perhaps my followers do. If any of you all want to help out this Anon, you can reply to this post or submit the links to me. 

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Only 10 days left to submit to the book project! June 1st is the deadline. More information can be found by clicking here. 

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Only 11 days left to submit to the book project! June 1st is the deadline. More information can be found by clicking here. 

Anonymous asked: Hi :) I've been struggling with self-harm and depression for about 8 years and recently things have gotten progressively worse so I've finally decided to seek professional help. But I don't even know where to start or whether I need a psychiatrist, a psychologist or what. It's all mind-boggling and a bit daunting haha :( Any advice? :) x

It’s great to hear that you are deciding to seek professional help. I sincerely hope that this will get you on the right track. Of course, it won’t be easy and it’s not a quick fix. It will take time and a lot of effort. But if can you stick with it, I really hope it works for you.

If you are a student in college, you can start by seeing if they have counseling services offered on campus. Many universities do offer at least short term mental health services, and they usually will help connect with a long-term therapist. 

If you aren’t in college, a good place to start might be by asking your primary care physician if they can refer you to any psychologists. I would say start out with a psychologist or counselor of some sort, and they will probably recommend a psychiatrist if they think you should also have medication. You can always talk to the person you see about that and they can guide you through that process. 

A lot of insurance companies have a list of providers who are in network. If you have insurance, check that out and start calling psychologists on that list to see if they are within your price range and if you can set up an appointment with them. You can also click here and search for therapists in your area. This search engine has a lot of options to help you narrow your search and you can read a little bit about each therapist before making that phone call to set something up. You can also call the Suicide Hotlines at 1.800.273.TALK or 1.800.SUICIDE and they can connect you to local resources.

Remember when searching for a therapist that you don’t have to stay with the first one you see. If you don’t feel comfortable with them, it is perfectly okay for you to discontinue seeing them and to find someone else. It is also important to not quit therapy just because the therapist you saw was awful. Sometimes, it takes a couple of tries to find the right therapist for you. The process isn’t the most fun, but once you find a person who works well for you, hopefully you can start turning things around for the better. 

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Anonymous asked: my life is super crappy up, yea i get good grades and all that crap, but it isnt everything. Just cause i do well in school people asume im that kind of kid whos a good girl and all that crap, they dont bother with asking about the real me, so im forced to pretend to be someone im not and it hurts. It hurts to know that people dont know i fake smiles, it hurts because they dont understand my situation. Not even my best friends. they dont understand what it feels like, at all.

Hello anon,

It’s true. People do a lot of assuming. And good grades don’t mean that everything is okay. You can be good at school even if things are falling apart in other aspects of your life. It sounds to me like you are keeping everything to yourself and expecting everyone to just magically know that something is wrong, though. If you have been putting on this act for a while, you are probably pretty good at it. If all anyone has ever known are these fake smiles, then they probably wouldn’t suspect that anything was wrong. I know that people get pretty good at pretending. People are also generally afraid to ask if something is wrong. Even though it’s so often what is needed, people don’t want you to get angry if there actually isn’t something wrong and people don’t know how to talk about it if something is wrong. Sadly, we aren’t raised with these things being talked about, so we have to make the effort to get comfortable with the topic, and that isn’t always easy.

People are not necessarily going to be able to understand exactly what it feels like to go through whatever it is you are going through.  To expect that is to expect too much. Nobody can ever fully understand what it feels like for you, even if they have gone through a similar situation, because they aren’t you. What you can expect is for people be there supporting you and loving you through it, even though they may not fully understand. But in order to get that love and support, you are going to have to open up.

This may seem difficult and it will probably be scary, but people aren’t mind readers. Just because these people haven’t asked you if anything is wrong doesn’t mean that they don’t care about you and don’t want to listen to you. Maybe they just don’t know how to ask. You shouldn’t have to pretend to be someone you are not, and I’m sure that dropping the act and letting people in will feel good. Talking one on one might be best to start out with, but if you feel comfortable talking to your friends as a group, go that route. If you don’t want to initially open up to your friends, you can try talking to a school counselor or trusted teacher. Maybe you can write a letter and have them read it, or send a text or something like that. 

As scary as it will be to open up, it will be worth it in the end. You deserve the love and support of your friends and I’m sure they want to be there for you. They just aren’t aware that you need it. So let them know. It will be okay. 

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